Friday, August 27, 2010

Where is my Joseph when I need him?

A few days ago I had a really bad dream.

You know, one of THOSE dreams where you wake up angry and resentful of your spouse for their behavior in your dream? And for the first hour or so of the day, you can hardly talk to them because the rage feels so real and so part of you?

Yeah. Needless to say, the Husband was thrilled.

He loves when I'm mad at him for no reason.

ANYhoo, I dreamed that the Husband had an affair. AND that he started smoking.

In the dream, I was really, really furious. I hated that he would cheat on me, but felt that I could work through it and forgive him.

What I could not forgive, however, was the smoking.

Oh wise internet, what does that say about me? That I'm highly tolerant or intolerant?

Discuss.

16 comments:

Lauren in GA said...

I have had several dreams that Mike has cheated on me...and I have woken up hurt and furious. One morning I was just staring at him...and he turned around and said, "What?" and I practically growled at him, "I just had a dream that you CHEATED on me!!" It was weird...but I wanted him to reassure me that it was just a dream and that my subconscious was not trying to tell me something. I wanted comfort right that red hot second and he hadn't even done anything. Poor guy. Then we had to discuss ad nauseum that he would never have an affair...all before 7:00 a.m.

I think it is kind of funny that you were more upset over the smoking in your dream. Smoking is so vile...I just think that your subconscious was intolerant, not you.

Andy Johnson said...

Before my mission I dreamed I was a knight in a castle under siege by my girlfriend. I was chased by the dark knight (not batman) until a point in the dream, when I realized I was dreaming. I turned around, drew my sword and cut his head off. The head rolled across the ground, and then the mask in the helmet blew off, much like star wars. It was the face of my best friend Eric. Weird.

Good luck with your acute psychosis.

Sherry said...

I think you are just watching too much Mad Men!

Tristan said...

Yeah what movies/shows/ have you been watching or books have you been reading? ;-)

mae said...

HA! I amt not kidding but I had a dream about my spouse last night that he was hanging out with the 19 year old gorgeous babysitter. I woke up pissed but wrote it off to the fact that I am really fat/pregnant and feel a teensy tiny stab of rage when I see skinnies walking around looking all skinny.

Smoking tho- that would be a total dealbreaker :)

brooke said...

You are tolerant of moral indiscretions but not crimes against hygeine and class.

Stefani said...

Isn't it comforting to know you still feel that fiercely about your husband? You want him to be with you (and you only) and you want him to be healthy (and smell good) and be around for a long time to come.

Lala said...

You are cracking me up! I frequently have what I call "think-dreams" - I am totally awake and go through an entire scenerio that my husband is dead or has cheated or I have cancer or I wind up on Oprah to discuss my favorite books. Again, I am totally awake! I cry a lot during these think-dreams, so if you think you're a little crazy...

Kari said...

I've had weird dreams like that lately. The other night it was a dream that he told me we were going to visit his parents. When we got there, we were really moving into a houseboat on the lake with his ENTIRE FAMILY! I was furious. I hate the lake. I hate boats. And, I wouldn't want to ever live with his entire family, LOL! It's funny how you do really feel mad at them when you wake up.

Jenibelle said...

He likes it when you're mad because he knows that there will be "make-up" sex around the corner. Which to a man, is almost as good as hotel sex. What is it about them?

calibosmom said...

Spot on Jenibelle! I think you are able to forgive the first sin (cheating) because it is mostly a sin against you and you are a forgiving person but the second sin (smoking) is a sin that harms mostly him and you love him and don't want anything bad to happen to him ever. You love him so much that you can't stand the thought of him doing harm to himself.
I think its a lot about having control over things. You being an OCD person, you surely don't know anything about that...;)

Julianna said...

Smoking's a deal breaker for me. As for the cheating? You'd be a better woman than I, He'd be out the door with nothing but his cigarettes. -J

Jessica said...

It means you are OCD: how in the heck would you get that smoke smell out of his clothes?! Lipstick stains you could probably handle...

♥Shally said...

I hate those dreams. One morning I woke up and slugged Zach in the arm for all he did to me during the night.

You are right though... smoking is DISGUSTING. :)

Liz said...

Hmm. I just saw dream interpretation listed as a class option at my local community education center. Maybe there is one at yours, too. Just think of all the fun we could have analyzing each other's dreams!

Holly said...

Well, you know, smoking blows.

Your dream is much more interesting than fat cows and skinny cows anyway.

I giggled at one of the previous comments about watching Mad Men--are you as obsessed with that show as I am? I. Can. Not. Get. Enough.